Happiness was never an issue at school, but it was slippery and hard to hang on to. I was talented in sport and learning. However I was an emotional ‘hot head’ whose outbursts too frequently got in the way of success. I lost my mother to a heart attack when I was very young and my father coped with his loss by working long hours. I didn’t get much parental guidance about how to tolerate frustration and how to push on in spite of it. I did what came easy and just as easily gave up when it became hard. I dropped out of school and became what is called in Australia, a ‘surfer bum’.
In hindsight, my choice to return to night school and then study psychology at University was the beginning of my own search to manage under-achievement caused by the intensity of negative feelings.
It took me nine years — a four year undergraduate honors degree in psychology, a two-year master’s degree in clinical psychology, and three years of researching therapeutic strategies for a doctor of philosophy degree to reassure myself that the therapeutic approach I intended to specialize in was the “right” one. I subsequently began, and forty years later retired from, a career in psychology as a cognitive behavior therapist. Over this time, I saw many clients, worked as a lecturer in undergraduate and graduate psychology programs in three universities, and trained hundreds of mental health professionals in the skills and strategies of cognitive behavior therapy (CBT).
I am now ready to share with you what I have learned during my career as a clinical psychologist, lecturer and trainer of therapists.
The title of this book says it all. If this title resonates with you in any way, you are ready for it.
It answers questions like:
1. Why does our instinct want us to be unhappy?
2. Why can’t I be happy or stay happy?
3. Why aren’t I satisfied with what I have?
4. How does this relate to ageing and chronic pain?
5. Why do I keep repeating the same mistakes?
6. Why do I let people take advantage of me?
7. Why do I keep picking the wrong person as a partner?
8. What can I do about my frustration?
9. How can I feel better at work?
10. How can I teach this to my kids?
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Dr Robert Dawson 2017.